“It’s like throwing a hotdog down a hallway!”

“Can you let me stretch that pussy out or nah?”

Vaginas vary by person; and having a loose or tight one, or one in-between, is neither a good nor bad thing. However, many people associate having a “loose” or “stretched out” vagina with having a lot of sex, and use this as a way to shame people with vaginas for having lots of sex, which is very not okay.

So, it’s pretty important to establish that, contrary to popular belief, having an active sex life does not permanently loosen the vajayjay at all! And here’s why:

You see, the vagina is a fibromuscular, tubular canal, meaning that it is made out of a tightly folded, elastic muscle. When the vagina is resting (in its normal, usual state) the vaginal muscles remain tightly folded. When the person with the vagina is anxious, the vagina tightens even more, hence why sexual first-timers, first-time tampon users, etc., are usually so tight (because these can be anxiety-producing things). However, when the vagina is relaxed or sexually aroused, the muscles loosen in order to make way for whatever’s coming!

But, after the deed is done, the vagina reverts back to its original, resting, tightly coiled state.

Think of it sort of as a mouth: if we were to take our index fingers, pull the opposing corners of our mouths and let go, what happens? It goes back to its original state! Whether we do it one time, or 50 times. Our mouths and our vaginas, go back to their original state, every time.

I won’t lie to you and say that the vagina can never permanently loosen, ever. Muscle fibers tend to lose their elasticity over time, so old age does cause the vaginal muscles to loosen gradually. Now, the first time a young person (late teens/early twenties) gives birth, the vagina is likely to revert back to its original size after the birth. However, in combination with aging, the vagina does tend to gradually loosen after giving multiple births.

That’s it, Badgers. The only natural occurrences that have the potential to actually loosen the vagina: old age and multiple births, NOT intercourse. So, unless we’re inserting and exerting an infant-sized dildo/dick/finger/toy/cucumber into our vaginas, we have nothing to be concerned about when it comes to our tightness. So, let’s all make an effort to debunk this myth! Disassociate lots of sex with vaginal muscle loosening and love and accept all vaginas, mmkay? Love to all! 😀

P.S. Just because old age and multiple births can loosen our muscles, doesn’t mean we can’t take matters into our own hands if we want to. If we, for ourselves, want to take control of our tightness, then we have the natural option of doing Kegel exercises! These exercises involve the clenching and unclenching of our P.C muscles, which we find by peeing and then stopping midstream. We can clench and unclench rapidly, or clench and hold for 8-10 seconds, and/or use Kegel balls! Whatever feels most comfortable to us. Happy vaginas, everyone!